One of my daughters passed this milestone earlier this year (quite later than expected) and so when we were out buying pads I was looking down the aisle at all sorts of things that would make this experience more comfortable for her. 

I thought I would compile a list of things that I had gotten (or wished I had gotten or provided) for that first time, as well as to keep on  hand for good feminine hygiene.

  • Menstrual calendar (if your daughter has a smartphone, there are also some good apps out there for tracking periods)
  • Fabric Bag for storing period supplies ( a nice color/design that fits your daughter)
  • Period travel/emergency mini bag (small bag that can fit in the purse to hold pads, etc)
  • Pads (heavy duty and regular)
  • Pantyliners
  • Flushable wipes
  • Teen vitamins
  • Extra set of underwear to wear during period
  • Disposable bags for pads
  • Heating pad for cramps
  • Menstrual medicine for cramps, bloating
  • Hand wipes
  • Period answer book (purchase or make your own; for Muslim girls, can include Islamic books/ahadith on the topic as well as general hygiene information )
A good idea would be to have a kit already prepared before the start of the first period and to always keep these supplies on hand afterward.

Alhamdulillah, I have talked to my older daughters to various extents about getting their periods, so I hope that it will not be traumatic for them.  I hope to be prepared beforehand, (as I wasn't this time).


Are there any items you would add to a period/first period kit?

 

 

 


http://salaf-us-saalih.com/2012/10/08/women-showing-their-feet-shaikh-al-albaani/
 
 Q: “Should a woman cover her feet when she prays?”
Shaikh al-Albaani:

It is not permissible for her to pray with her feet uncovered, indeed it is not allowed for her to walk in the streets with her feet uncovered, because the feet are part of the `awrah of a woman based on Allaah’s (`azza wa jal) Saying: {And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment}.[1] The woman during the Days of Ignorance used to wear what is known in the Arabic language as khalkhaal (anklet), meaning a bracelet with small bells. So when the woman walked, she in order to turn the men’s attention to her would strike the ground with her feet so the anklet would make a noise and the men would hear that; and such was due to shaitaan`s whisperings to her.

This means that the feet used to be covered. Because of what? Because of the jilbaab that the women were commanded to cast down from over their heads, according to Allaah’s Saying: {O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their outer garments (jilbaabs) close upon themselves}.[2] And it is mentioned in the authentic hadeeth that the Prophet (sallAllaahu `alayhi wa sallam) said one day during a gathering in which there were also women: `Whoever drags his garment out of pride, Allaah will not look at him on the Day of Resurrection. One of the women said: `O Messenger of Allaah, then our feet will be exposed.’ He (`alayhi ssalaam) said: `let (the women) lengthen (their garments) by a hand-span.’ She said: `Then a wind may come and uncover (their feet).’ He (`alayhi ssalaat wa ssalaam) said: `let them add another hand-span, i.e. a cubit, and not go beyond that.’[3] [4]

In this manner, the jilbaab of the Muslim woman at the time of the revelation of the above-mentioned verse: {to draw their outer garments (jilbaabs) close upon themselves} used to cover the feet since the socks that are widespread nowadays among both women and men were not widespread at that time. The woman used to cover her shins and feet with the long jilbaab that resembles the `abaa.ah. Therefore it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to uncover her feet while she is on the street, and it is even more impermissible for her to pray with her feet uncovered.”
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[1] Surat un-Noor 24:31
[2] Surat ul-Ahzaab 33:59
[3] the Shaikh mentioned the general meaning, not the exact wording, of the woman’s speech
[4] Saheeh at-Tirmidhi 1731
 
[silsilat ul-hudaa wa nnoor 697/3-4 / asaheeha translations]

 


Women Wearing Hijab And Make-up In Public: Two Conflicting Contradictions In Islam - Shaykh Albanee [Arabic/English] 

via Salaf-us-Saalih.com

Text of the Video:

Women wearing makeup
http://salaf-us-saalih.com/2010/08/29/a-duyyooth-will-not-enter-jannah-shaykh-albanee/

source: silsilat ul-hudaa wa nnoor – the series of guidance and light – tape no. 697
maa shaa Allaah this is truly a much needed clarification of the ruling on makeup, about which many are unaware. shaykh al-albaani (rahimahullaah) advises both women and men in this regard.
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Question #3: “Is it allowed for the woman to put on make-up if she leaves her house wearing the hijaab?”
Shaykh al-Albaani (rahimahullaah) answers:
It is not permissible for the woman who does not wear hijaab, let alone who wears hijaab, to use the makeup of the disbeliever, the make-up of the rebellious and disobedient (to Allaah). When were you aware of some women’s adornment called by a name for which Allaah did not send down an authority: ‘make-up’? This is a word that we don’t know, not us nor your forefathers from before. Rather, it is a foreign word expressing an adornment for the rebellious and disobedient women of Europe; and our women – except those of them whom Allaah protects – unfortunately imitate decorating themselves with this adornment which the Islamic society is being affected by, namely make-up. 

So it is not permissible for the woman. And this reality is one of the strange ironies: in the road we see a woman wearing a decent hijaab (but) I don’t say the Islamically legislated hijaab; she ties what they call the ‘ishaarb’ – or khimaar which is the (correct) Arabic word – covering her hair, her neck and so on, but she has face powder and lipstick on. This (wearing the hijaab) is against this (wearing make-up): two contradictory, conflicting matters that do not go together. What is the reason (for this type of occurrence)? It is one of two things: either ignorance and heedlessness of the Islamically legislated ruling or it is due to the women’s following of the temptations of shaytaan.

Therefore, we firstly remind the women who suffer from this make-up. 

Then secondly, we remind the guardians of women such as a father or a husband or a brother, due to the fact that (the Prophet) (‘alayhi ssalaat wa ssalaam) said: ‘Everyone of you is a shepherd and everyone of you is responsible for his flock. So the man is a shepherd and he is responsible for his flock-’[1] to the end of the hadeeth. Thus, the Arabic or general proverb states: ‘The horse is from the horseman.’ So you, the husband of the woman, it is not permissible for you to allow her to go out in this manner which puts to trial the middle-aged men, let alone the young men! And you, O man, O father, O brother, are supposed to be very jealous. Why? Because the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa aalihi wa sallam) used to say: ‘A duyyooth will not enter Paradise.’[2] Why? Who is a duyyooth? He is the one who does not guard his womenfolk jealously.”

 

 

 



"Shaikh Ubaid al Jaabiree answers a question about the book “The Ideal Muslimah” by Ali Hashimi and gives valuable advice with regards to the types of books we should accept (Arabic and English)." (this description taken from http://sughayyirah.wordpress.com/2012/08/22/not-recommended-the-ideal-muslimah/)

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The Etiquettes of the Muslim Woman in the Streets' by Brother AbuFajr (via aloloomenglish.net)



Advice to Our Teenage Girls, lecture by Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi; download from 4shared.com

I thought this was a really cute illustrated video on the topic that might be great for kids.  It does contain music so I suggest muting it from the start, it's still really effective without sound.




The Ruling on Wearing Colorful Hijaab (Covered Pearls.wordpress.com)


Shaikh Al-Albaanee stated:
The Sixth Condition: That it [the Jilbaab] should not be an adornment in and of itself.
And know that it is not adornment in any sense if the clothing with which a woman covers herself is coloured with a colour other than white or black, contrary to what some of the firmly practising women wrongly suppose. This is based upon the following:
Firstly:
His sallallaahu‘alaihiwasallam’s statement:
“The perfume of women is that whose colour is apparent and whose scent is hidden…” and this is taken from “Mukhtasar Ash-Shamaa’il” (188).
Secondly:
The course of action of the female Companions upon that, and I cite here some of the established narrations in this regard from that which Al-Haafiz Ibn Abee Shaybah narrates in “Al-Musannaf” (8/371-372):
From Ibraheem – and he is An-Nakha‘ee:
That he would enter along with ‘Alqamah and Al-’Aswad upon the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu‘alaihiwasallam; so he saw them in red coverings.
From Ibn Abee Mulaikah who said:
I saw upon Umm Salamah a garment and a covering coloured with safflower [i.e. yellow/red].
From Al-Qaasim – and he is Muhammad ibn Abee Bakr As-Siddeeq:
That ‘Aa’ishah used to wear clothing dyed with safflower while she was in a state of Ihraam.
And in a narration from Al-Qaasim:
That ‘Aa’ishah used to wear clothing dyed red with safflower while she was in a state of Ihraam.
From Hishaam from Faatimah bint Al-Mundhir:
That Asmaa used to wear [clothing] dyed with safflower while she was in a state of Ihraam.
From Sa‘eed ibn Jubair:
That he saw some of the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu‘alaihi wa ’aalihi wa sallam performing Tawaaf of the House while they were wearing clothing dyed with safflower.
The Eighth Condition: That it [the Jilbaab] should not be clothing worn for Shuhrah (seeking to stand out)[1]
Due to the Hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar radiyallaahu‘anhu who said that the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu‘alaihiwasallam said:
“Whoever wears clothing seeking to stand out and be famous in the life of this world, Allaah will dress him with clothing of humiliation on the Day of Resurrection, then it will be set ablaze.”[2]
[Taken from Jilbaab ul-Mar’at-il-Muslimah p121-123 and p 213]
Footnotes:
[1] And it is every clothing which is worn intending to stand out amongst the people, whether it be clothing which is expensive which one may wear to show off and boast regarding this world and its adornment, or clothing which is very simple which one may wear to manifest ascetism and for riyaa (performing righteous actions with the intention of impressing others). And Ash-Shawkaanee said in, ‘Nayl-ul-Awtaar’ (2/94):
“Ibn-ul-Atheer said, ‘Ash-Shuhrah is making something manifest, and the intent here is that his clothing is such that it makes him stand out from the people due to its colour being different to the colour of their clothing, so that it catches their eye such that it causes amazement and pride.’”
[2] Aboo Daawood (2/182) and Ibn Maajah (2/278-279) from the way of Aboo ‘Awaanah from ‘Uthmaan ibn-ul-Mugheerah from Al-Muhaajir from him.
And this chain of narration is Hasan as al-Mundhiree said in “At-Targheeb” (3/112), and the people of his chain of narration are reliable as Ash-Shawkaanee said.
I say … [detailed takhreej (analysis) of this and other variant narrations of the same hadeeth omitted].
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Al-Lajnat-ud-Daa’imah (Permanent Committee of Scholars)
Question:
The Jilbaab of the Muslim woman – must it be specifically be black or can it be of other colours?
Answer:
The clothing of the Muslim woman is not restricted to being black, and it is permissible for her to wear any colour of clothing so long as it covers her ‘awrah (that part of the body which should be covered according to the sharee‘ah), does not cause resemblance of men, is not close-fitting such that it delineates the shape of her body, is not thin and transparent such that is reveals what is underneath it, and does not provoke fitnah (temptation).
‘Abdul-‘Azeez ibn ‘Abdullaah ibn Baaz ‘Abdurrazzaaq ‘Afeefee ‘Abdullaah ibn Ghudayaan ‘Abdullaah ibn Qu‘ood
[1/5089 p181 vol 18 - ‘The Hijaab and clothing of women’ from Fataawaa Al-Lajnat-id-Daa’imati lil-Buhooth-il-‘Ilmiyyati wal-Iftaa]
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Shaikh ‘Ubayd al-Jaabiree
Question:
I have read some narrations concerning the Mothers of the Believers that they used to wear hijaabs and jilbaabs that were coloured red and yellow, so is it permissible for me to wear those colours?
Answer:
O my daughter, these colours that were worn by those women at that time were colours that were known and that they were acquainted with during that time, and the intent behind that which is mentioned in these narrations is not colours that turn one’s attention, but indeed it is the likes of red or black, or for example a mixture or combination of red, black and green. So do not envision that the Mothers of the Believers and their sisters from amongst the Companions or the Taabi‘iyaat used to wear Jilbaabs or Khimars so as to turn the attention of unrelated men towards them.
[Answered by Sh ‘Ubayd in Madeenat-ul-Munawwarah on 14th May 2007. Based on translation by Aboo Hakeem]
The Difference Between Men and Women in Islam
Comprehensive categorized look at the differences between men and women according to Islam. Taken from a treatise by Shaykh Yahya ibn Ali Al-Hajuri





Oh Sister Covered in Hijab

'This is a poem by shaykh Badr Bin Ali Utaybee hafidahullaah, taken from “20 pieces of advice to my sister before her marriage”'
Excerpt:

“Oh sister veiled in hijaab slacken your pace.
Walk upon the hearts of the jealous ones and cause them to tremble!
Move with nobility and pride whenever the eyes of the envious
are barred from glancing at your skin.
You are beauty in its goodness and perfection.
You are chastity in all its glory.
Don’t be decieved! Indeed veiling your face is from the sunnah
of that chosen Hashami Mesenger (sallallahu alyhi wa sallam)
Being veiled from sight is for you a sign of dignity;
be delighted and with it, spoil yourself.
Your veil is a protective armor from every dreadful assailing wolf.
This is our legislation, truly and justly
Just as it is our nature.






Removing Self Limiting Beliefs from Pluginid.com

a self help article with tips for helping you remove your self limiting beliefs.

Highlights for ways to remove self-limiting beliefs:
  • don't settle for second best
  • set goals
  • realize you own your self-limiting beliefs




The Status of Women before and after Islaam – Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan

Source: invitation2islaam.wordpress.com


by  Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan
Tanbeehaat ‘alaa Ahkaam takhtassu bil-Mu’minaat (pg. 6-11)
Al-Ibaanah (dot) com (the website is down now, baarak Allaahu feekum)
The Status of the Woman before Islaam:
What is meant “before Islaam” here is the period known as Jaahiliyyah (Days of Ignorance), which the Arabs used to live in specifically and the people of the whole world in general. This was when the people did not have any Messengers amongst them and they were void of any guidance. And as is stated in the hadeeth, “Allaah looked at them – both Arabs and Non-Arabs – and hated them, except for some remnants from the People of the Book (who stayed upon the true message).” 
In most cases, the woman of this time period lived under critical conditions – especially those in the Arab societies, where they used to hate it when a girl was born. So amongst the Arabs were those who would bury their daughter while she was still alive until she died below the earth. And amongst them were those who let them live only to find a life of humiliation and degradation. Allaah says: “And when news of the birth of a female child was brought to any of them, his face would become dark and filled with grief. He hides himself from the people because of the evil that he has been informed of. Shall he keep her with dishonor or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision.” [Surah An-Nahl: 58-59]
And Allaah says: “And when the female child who was buried in the ground will be questioned – for what sin was she killed?” [Surah At-Takweer: 8-9]
The word maw’oodah refers to the baby girl that was buried alive and left to die inside the earth. And if she was spared from being buried alive and allowed to live, then indeed she found herself living a life of degradation. This is since she was not allowed to inherit any portion of her relative’s estate no matter how much money he had and regardless of if she was suffering from poverty and dire need. The reason for this is because they would make the inheritance specific for men in exclusion of women. In fact, she would be distributed as part of her deceased husband’s estate, just as his money would be distributed in inheritance!
And there would be found a score of women living under one man, since they would not put any limits to the number of wives they could marry. So they wouldn’t show any concern for what occurred to the women as a result of that, such as living under cramped conditions, inconveniences and injustice.
The Status of the Woman after Islaam: 
But when Islaam came, it uplifted these injustices from the woman and returned her honor and self-esteem in humanity back to her. Allaah says: “O mankind, indeed We created you from a male and a female.” [Surah Al-Hujuraat: 13]
So Allaah mentions that she is the partner of man in the origin of humanity and likewise, she is partners with man in terms of being rewarded or punished for actions performed. Allaah says:“Whoever does good deeds, – whether male or female – while he or she is a true believer, to him We will give a good life and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do.” [Surah An-Nahl: 97]
Allaah says: “So that Allaah may punish the male and female hypocrites and the male and female polytheists.” [Surah Al-Ahzaab: 73]
And Allaah made it forbidden to consider a woman as a possession to be inherited from her dead husband’s estate, as He says: “O you who believe, you are forbidden to inherit women against their will.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 19]
So Allaah gave her independence in her individuality, such that she became one who can inherit as opposed to an object of inheritance. And Allaah gave the woman a right in the inheritance of her relative’s wealth. Allaah says: “There is a share for men and a share for women from what is left by their parents and close relatives, whether the property be small or large – a legal share.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 7]
And Allaah says: “Allaah commands you as regards your children’s inheritance: to the male a portion equal to that of two females. If there are only daughters, two or more, their share is two-thirds of the inheritance; if only one, her share is a half.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 11]
And this goes as well for the other texts that state a woman can inherit whether she be a mother, a daughter, a sister or a wife.
In the area of marital affairs, Allaah limited a husband to marrying the maximum of four wives, on the condition that he treats all of his wives fairly and equally according to his ability. And He obligated to the husbands to live with them in kindness, as He says: “And live with them honorably.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 19]
And He made the dowry her right and He commanded that it be given to her in full except for that which she permits from her own good will. Allaah says: “And give to the women their dowry with a good heart. But if they, out of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it without any fear of harm.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 4]
And Allaah made her the caretaker, commanding good and forbidding evil in the household of her husband – and the leader over her children. The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “A woman is the guardian of her husband’s household and she will be asked (on the Day of Judgement) concerning those under her care.” Also, Allaah made it obligatory for the husband to spend on her and to clothe her in a good manner.
What the Enemies of Islaam and their Offshoots want today from their stripping the Woman of her Honor and rights: 
Indeed the enemies of Islaam – rather the enemies of humanity – today, from the disbelievers, hypocrites and those who have a disease in their hearts are enraged about what the Muslim woman has achieved from honor, glory and chastity in Islaam. This is because the enemies of Islaam from the disbelievers, hypocrites and those who have a disease in their hearts – they want from the woman that she serve as a trap by which they can lure and catch those with weak Eemaan and those who have perverted natures, after having fulfilled their depraved desires from her. Allaah says: “But those who follow their lusts wish that you should deviate tremendously away.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 27]
And those who have a disease in their hearts among the Muslims want the woman to be a cheap commodity exhibiting herself to those people of lustful desires and devilish inclinations. They want her to serve as an open commodity before their eyes so that they may find entertainment in her beautiful appearance or perhaps they may make her do something far worse than that.
This is why they expend great efforts in trying to make the woman go out of her home so that she can participate with men in their jobs – working side by side with them. Or that she can serve and tend to men as a nurse in the hospital or a flight attendant on an airplane or a teacher or professor in mixed non-segregated schools Or that she be an actress in the theatres or a singer or a broadcaster on the various forms of media – exposing her face and enticing men by her voice and appearance.
And the immoral magazines have taken pictures of young girls that are looking provocative and naked as a means for promoting and marketing their magazines. And some businessmen and companies have taken these pictures also as a means for promoting their product, such that they place these pictures in their advertisements and exhibits.
These evil actions are meant to distract the woman from her real and true duty, which is in the home. And this forces the husbands to hire female servants to raise their children and take care of the affairs of their households, which results in much mischief and great evil.
However, we don’t restrict a woman from working outside of her home, so long as she abides by the following guidelines:
1. She must have a need for doing this work or the community she lives in requires her to do this job, such that there cannot be found any man that can do the job.
2. She should do this after fulfilling the job she has at home, which is her primary job.
3. This job must be in an environment of women only, such as her teaching women (only) or doctoring and nursing female patients. And her work must be separate from men.
4. Likewise, there is nothing that restricts her from learning the affairs of her Religion – in fact she is obligated to do this. And there is nothing preventing her from teaching about the aspects of her Religion, so long as there is a need for that and her teaching is held in an environment of (only) women. And there is no harm in her attending classes in a masjid and so on, while being consistent in that and segregated from men. This can be seen from the women in the beginning of Islaam (i.e. the Sahaabiyaat), in that they would work and study and attend the masaajid.